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3 Essential Conversations to Have to Divorce-Proof Your Marriage in Oregon

Published October 13, 2021
Psychologists have identified a few key topics that couples should discuss before marriage to give their partnership a solid foundation. Discussing financial habits, communication styles, and your roles in the partnership can help you start your journey with confidence.

As you plan for your wedding, the last thing you want to think about is a future in which the marriage ends in divorce. However, many couples ultimately find themselves in failing marriages, even when they never expected this outcome. Over the years, psychologists have identified a few key topics that couples should discuss before marriage if they want to give their partnership a solid foundation. Below are three conversations that you and your soon-to-be spouse should have so you can move into your shared future with confidence.

1. Finances

One of the most common sources of marital conflict involves finances. When spouses don’t see eye to eye on their spending habits, or if one spouse feels resentful over their partner’s earning capacity, disputes can arise. Before you marry, have an open and honest discussion about your finances—your individual savings, debts, and spending habits, as well as your vision for your future together. Setting financial goals can give your marriage a strong foundation and minimize conflicts later on.

2. Communication Styles

While you probably have some idea of you and your partner’s preferred communication styles, discussing this topic can help you understand what you and your spouse need from one another. For instance, talking about how you respond to marital conflict can help you navigate future disagreements more productively. If one spouse tends to withdraw from conflict while the other person is more confrontational, consider how you’ll approach conflict resolution in a way that serves both parties.

3. Defining Partnership

As you embark on this new journey together, it’s important to take some time to define your partnership. How do you envision your roles in this relationship? Who will take on the larger share of household responsibilities? Do you both enjoy being social, or does one partner prefer to carve out alone time to recharge? What steps can you take to make sure you both feel supported by your partner? Having these conversations is a great way to build trust and intimacy as you move into this exciting chapter of your life.


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