When you begin to realize that your marriage may be ending, it’s natural to experience a range of emotions, such as sadness, anger, grief, or relief. As you initiate the lengthy process of untangling your life from that of your spouse, you’ll face a number of questions and decisions about the future. You may also worry that the divorce process will be tense, stressful, or even contentious—but it doesn’t have to be. In fact, many divorcing couples are choosing to participate in mediation in order to complete the divorce process, allowing both spouses to negotiate the terms of their divorce in a collaborative manner while allowing them to avoid costly courtroom battles. Let’s take a look at some indicators as to whether mediation may work for you.
1. You Can Communicate Effectively With Your Ex
One key component of a successful mediation is the ability for both parties to communicate honestly and productively with one another. While no one expects you to be on friendly terms with your soon-to-be ex-spouse, you will still need to speak civility to one another to achieve a common goal. While a few minor disagreements may arise at various times during the mediation process, you’ll need to work together to reach an agreement of which you both approve. Divorcing parents often find that the collaborative process of mediation provides a helpful framework for co-parenting negotiations in the future.
2. You’re Willing to Compromise to Achieve a Successful Outcome
Any divorce process involves a number of major decisions, including the division of assets, the determination of spousal support payments, the negotiation of child support and child custody agreements, and more. As you and your spouse approach the divorce process, you’ll need to show a willingness to compromise along the way. Mediation is most successful when both parties can keep an open mind and negotiate a fair agreement that may not exactly align with their initial expectations. If disputes or disagreements arise that cannot be resolved through mediation, your attorney can help you take the matter to court for the judge to settle.
3. Your Divorce Does Not Involve Addiction or Violence Issues
There are times when mediation simply may not be appropriate or feasible for your situation. If one partner suffers from addiction, or if there have been incidents of domestic violence over the course of the marriage, going to court is likely the safest and most effective way to finalize your divorce. Otherwise, if these factors do not apply to your marriage or divorce, you may find that mediation is a cost-effective—and even empowering—way to negotiate the terms of your divorce so that you can move forward to enjoy the next chapter of your life.
At Lee Tyler Family Law, P.C., we’re committed to helping couples in the Portland area achieve their divorce goals. Call (503) 233-8868 today to get started with a trusted and friendly family law attorney.