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3 Strategies for Successful Spousal Support Negotiations

Published April 28, 2021
Spousal support negotiations can be a particularly challenging aspect of the divorce process. By understanding your financial reality, remaining calm and unemotional, and working with a trusted attorney, these negotiations can proceed more smoothly and productively.

As you address the various aspects of your divorce, you’ll encounter many areas where disputes can easily arise. Even if you and your soon-to-be ex-spouse are on amicable terms, there are certain topics, such as child custody and spousal support, that can quickly become contentious. Generally, the more you and your spouse are able to collaborate and negotiate the final terms of your divorce, the more you will feel a sense of accomplishment and satisfaction with the outcome. Here are a few tips to help you negotiate an equitable spousal support agreement.

1. Understand Your Financial Situation

Before you can determine a spousal support agreement, you’ll need to have a clear picture of your financial reality. This means that you should create a budget of your anticipated expenses and cost of living once the divorce is finalized. If you are employed, will your salary be able to cover these expenses? Do you have alternate sources of income? If you have foregone a career during the course of your marriage to maintain your home or raise children, do you plan on going back to school to increase your employability? These are all important factors to consider as you begin your initial conversations about whether a spousal support agreement will be necessary, and if so, what it may look like.

2. Leave Emotion Out of Financial Negotiations

Facing the ending of your marriage can be a highly stressful and emotional process, and you or your spouse may be tempted to let your anger get the better of you. As hard as it may be, resist the urge to act vindictively by trying to greedily pursue money from your spouse just to “hit them where it hurts,” or by denying your spouse the financial support they need in order to create a future for themselves. Instead, try to view these negotiations as transactional processes that are designed to allow you both to move forward on your individual paths.

3. Discuss Your Goals With an Attorney

It can be difficult to maintain a neutral perspective during this emotional time. As questions and concerns arise, don’t hesitate to talk things over with a trusted divorce and mediation attorney who can provide you the answers and support you need. It’s important to recognize that you are never alone at any point in your divorce journey, and your attorney is here to help you successfully navigate the process so that you can ultimately enjoy a brighter future.

Call Lee Tyler Family Law, P.C. at (503) 233-8868 to discuss your divorce goals with a dedicated and compassionate Portland divorce and family law attorney today.

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