If you are nearing the end of your marriage or partnership, you are likely experiencing complicated emotions, including feelings of anxiety and stress. Suddenly, you are facing an unknown future, and it can be challenging to imagine what this next chapter will bring. Fortunately, there are a few concrete steps you can take that can ease the stress of your divorce and allow you and your ex to move towards a peaceful separation. Take a look at the three useful tips below to understand how you can make your divorce more amicable.
Discuss All of Your Options
As you and your partner experience marital problems, try to have a conversation about whether you truly want to go your separate ways. Sometimes, a particularly heated argument can lead one partner to ask for a divorce, but once a bit of time has passed and emotions have cooled off a bit, the couple finds that they do not, in fact, want to permanently separate. In some cases, meeting with a marital counselor or therapist can help couples learn to communicate more openly and effectively, strengthening their bond and steering their marriage back on course. However, many couples find that once the divorce is on the table, their marriage is beyond salvation. Once you and your spouse have had a clear and honest discussion about what you both want for yourselves, each other, and your family, you can decide whether to pursue a divorce in earnest.
Keep it Civil
Some marriages crumble because of infidelity or dishonesty, which can lead to open hostility or an inability to communicate. Since divorce is such a nuanced process that requires many important decisions to be made that directly impact your future, it’s important to remain communicative and civil as much as possible. Of course, this can be difficult when you are sorting through your feelings of rage and hurt towards your soon-to-be ex, but if you can keep your tone neutral and get through the tough conversations as cooly and efficiently as possible, you will be able to build yourself a strong foundation for your post-divorce future. Additionally, if you and your spouse are able to keep things civil throughout the process and work towards a common goal, it’s more likely that you will be able to finalize your divorce without having to battle it out in court—saving you time, stress, and money.
Do Your Homework
When it comes to divorce, there are many options for you to explore. While there is always the option to head to court, where the battle will likely be lengthy, costly, and stressful, there are other ways to finalize your divorce without having to set foot in a courtroom. If you and your spouse are on somewhat pleasant terms, you may consider mediation. Mediation allows you and your partner to discuss, negotiate, and finalize the terms of your divorce under the guidance of a neutral third-party. Or, you may want to consider a collaborative divorce, where both partners and their attorneys, along with any other relevant participants (i.e., financial advisors or therapists) agree to work together towards a resolution without resorting to litigation. Regardless of which option you end up selecting, you can trust that you will eventually walk away from your marriage and into a new and brighter future.
To learn more about your options for divorce in the Portland area, contact Lee Tyler Family Law, P.C. today at (503) 233-8868 to speak to a warm and experienced divorce and family law attorney.